With this article, we conclude our 12-part series on the topic of "Conflicts with Children." In the past articles, we have explored the various aspects of childhood conflicts in depth: when and how they arise, what forms they take, how we can deal with them constructively, set boundaries, and even prevent conflicts. We have discussed the importance of emotional competence, introduced practical tools, and emphasized the collaboration with parents as well as the point at which professional help becomes appropriate.
In this final part, we summarize key insights and look ahead: How can we apply what we’ve learned in a sustainable way, continue to grow, and learn together?
Seeing Conflicts as Opportunities Conflicts are not a sign of failure but a natural part of growing up. Children develop vital social and emotional skills through handling conflicts—such as empathy, assertiveness, and the ability to compromise. Adults—whether in daycare settings or family life—can also learn from these situations by reflecting, sharing with others, and being open to growth.
Foundations for a Positive Conflict Culture A reliable framework with clear rules and transparent routines gives children a sense of security. When they know what to expect, the social environment feels more stable. At the same time, it’s crucial to recognize and name emotions—both the children’s and our own. Adults serve as role models: being authentic, yet thoughtful in their actions.
Good communication on equal footing means active listening, using "I"-statements, and involving children in finding solutions. This builds appreciation and a sense of agency.
Practical Tools for Everyday Use Books, games, role plays, or emotion-memory games can help address topics like feelings and conflict resolution in a playful way. A structured daily routine, age-appropriate rules, and plenty of opportunities for movement help prevent many conflicts. Those who are familiar with compromise and de-escalation techniques and practice them early on create a calmer atmosphere over time.
Collaboration Between Professionals and Parents Professionals who regularly reflect on their approach can respond to conflicts with greater confidence and calm. Equally important is the cooperation with parents. A consistent approach at home and in daycare gives children orientation. Openness, mutual understanding, and transparent communication are the foundation here.
When External Support Is Needed If conflicts become a lasting burden or a child’s behavior is noticeably concerning, it’s important not to hesitate. Counseling centers, therapists, or early support services can offer valuable help. Even though we can manage a lot in daily life, there are moments when an outside perspective brings new insights.
Looking Ahead: Keep Learning and Growing Together Learning never stops. Whether parents or professionals, regularly reflecting on one’s actions is key. What works well? What needs improvement? Feedback within the team and in communication with families helps everyone evolve.
Educational concepts should remain dynamic: new ideas, current research, and team discussions enrich everyday life. As children grow and change, so must our ways of supporting them.
A strong system is built on unity. Whether through joint projects, parent meetings, or small rituals—when we see children, parents, and educators as a strong network, we all contribute to a more peaceful and supportive environment.
Conclusion Conflicts with children are not only inevitable—they’re a valuable opportunity for learning, for both children and adults. With empathy, clarity, and an open mind for the needs of everyone involved, many situations can not only be resolved but turned into moments of growth.
We sincerely thank you for your interest in our series "Conflicts with Children." We hope you’ve found inspiration and ideas for both your professional life and family experiences. Feel free to share what
